Friday, October 4, 2013

My Thoughts on Perception...

It's Friday - BOOYA!!!! and if you missed out yesterday on the awesome giveaway from Kiki La'Rue you are CRAZY - BUT... luckily you are still in time to get yourself in the mix. Check it out HERE. Both winners announced on Monday... YAY! 

I read this post HERE yesterday from Simply Sami - Haley from FourFitSisters.com guest posted for her while she moves into her new house... and it got my mind wandering. First off, Haley is from around St. Louis and her and her sisters are amazing... They are fit, gorgeous, and genuinely kind. I feel like I know them already, yet we still haven't met up... *cough, cough - meet up soon*.

Haley's post hit on "what we perceive as strong and fit" and I believe it is about time I dive into my true feelings. I tend to stay neutral on many topics... but YES... I am going there. I am on Pinterest and see what pins people post as "motivating" and, being honest, I roll my eyes A LOT. I am a FIRM believer in using photos/quotes to keep you motivated and give you a "goal" to reach, BUT sometimes I just.don't.get.it?

Everyone's perception of strong, healthy, beautiful, etc... is different and I get that - but being realistic is important to me as well. When I have a goal I am trying to reach I want to REALISTICALLY reach that goal - because, the person I am feels defeated if I don't attain it. This is just me and I KNOW me, so I try to keep my goals attainable. You all know the pics I am referring to - YES you can GET there but in a month... I just don't know?

Long soapbox short... I have come to realize that my perception of beauty is not about comparing myself to the photos. I want to FEEL strong, healthy, beautiful, etc... There is NOTHING better to me than waking up, looking in the mirror, and feeling STRONG... Comparison makes me feel defeated and I want to be done with that. I just need to remind myself each day that I AM STRONG, HEALTHY, HAPPY - I want to just be ME... I want to be active with my kids, run my face off, squat like no other, plank like a mother, laugh with everyone, try new exercises, build up my endurance, and wake up happy each day. 

Will toned arms, a nice tush, great legs make me happy? SURE... but feeling STRONG and HAPPY, regardless, is what I strive for.


Weekend On

Your thoughts on perception? What is a goal you are striving for this month/year? 

20 comments:

  1. Amen sista!! Loved this :) TGIF!

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  2. Love this. Strong is how WE determine it to be. Not a number on a scale, and not a pin on Pinterest. Love your look on this. I can still beat 95% of EVERY middle schooler at my school in the mile. BOOM!!!!! ha ha ha. Cough Cough ***meet up any time!!!!

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  3. Great post! Totally agree! You just have to be happy in your own skin. TGIF!!!

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  4. Wonderfully said Mel!! I JUST went through my IG account and unfollowed many of the UBER fitness accounts that I once drooled over. I realized at some point too that it just isn't realistic for me. I am not giving up on anything, I am not saying I couldn't be that way or look that way-but do I really want to? I think not. I am so happy maintaining what it is I already have and no it is not perfect and that is just fine by me!
    We be soul sistas ya know- you were totally in my head on this one!

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  5. AMEN!! I just don't get it. I see some of the "inspirations" people refer to and it is just so unattainable for me. I would have to be in the gym 24/7 and never partake in wine and Doritos!! I don't want to be something that just isn't possible. I am 41, I have wrinkles, stretch marks and cellulite, BUT....I feel strong and fit. This is SUCH a great post!!

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  6. awesome post. My goal....my first half bay-bay!!

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  7. Um yeah, my ass is never going to look like that. But, as long as I look good in jeans and my love wants to keep grabbing it, that is good enough for me. Ha!

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  8. You nailed it! My goals are the same. Feeling like the best me. I am never ever going to look like those images on Pinterest. No matter how hard I try, it won't happen (unless I have a full body overhaul by a plastic surgeon.) I don't want to get into my head about what is not a reality for me. I can be happy without looking like that.

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  9. Love this, Mel! It seems like if we're not striving to have washboard abs and defined biceps that we're not "doing it right". Us women put crazy pressure on each other and ourselves. Have a great weekend, gorgeous!

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  10. Preach it sister!!! I so needed this today! I'm pretty sure you'll never be able to bounce a quarter off my A$$ or wash some clothes on my abs, but at least I can wear my skinnies with pride. Have a great weekend girlie!

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  11. You hit the nail on the head with this. I would rather be strong and enjoy life than be miserable and super skinny. The feeling I get when I complete a long run, or when I dead lift heavier weights, cannot be beat! That feeling will never compare to the feeling of "being skinny."

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  12. This was so perfect that you posted this today! I struggle with being able to be happy with myself knowing that I am truly in better shape physically than I have ever been in my life. But, I don't look anything like so many IG and Pinterest posts I see that are supposed to be motivating. I am pushing myself to try new things, set bigger goals, keep challenging myself to be my best version of myself. And as I approach the big FOUR OH I know there are still improvements that I want to make...but overall I just want to feel comfortable in my own skin. I want to know that what I am trying to get to is maintainable, and most of all to learn to be happy with the goals that I am reaching and the progress that I am making. Thank you for always keeping it real, I love your blog so much!!!!

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  13. Loved this!!! And fun fact. Addie from Four Fit Sisters teaches with Todd. I love her!!!

    Happy Friday my Friend!

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  14. Love this :) For me, I want the feeling I got when running our race when I looked at my hubby and told him, "This is the reason I run, this feeling right now" - to me, that is far more important than rock hard abs...feeling strong is so important, not the way someone compares looks-wise with someone else!! happy friday friend :):)

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  15. Yes, love this!! I have repinned plenty of those "fitspo" photos...heck, I have hundreds on my fitness board. I would love to have abs, but at the end of the day I just want to be active and healthy and set a good example for the family I hope to have someday!

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  16. Perception is EVERYTHING. I completely agree. I'm a thrower for my college and I am skinny Minnie in comparison to my teammates and competitors but in the real non-athletic world my huge ass and biceps are not wanted by some girls. I want to be able to max out my bench press at 200 by Christmas and get my legs twice as strong since I've had surgery. Reaching those goals will make ME happy. Who cares what anybody else thinks. This was a great reminder for some women today!

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  17. Well said!! My goal was/is to lose 20 pounds by nov. Only down 8, so far. So maybe I'll have to settle for 15. But 15 is better than nothing!!

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  18. Love this post! I mean who could go without Swedish fish?!?! (or whatever your indulgence of choice - mine being reses!) That would just be sad. Being healthy and fit is important, but being realistic is also equally important! I think they go hand in hand!

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  19. AMEN sista! Yes I would love to have a rock hard ass and take pictures of it while wearing booty shorts and put a quote around it and pin it but i know that just aint gonna happen with a 7 minute workout in 30 days! I love feeling healthy when I eat cleaner and workout and we need to focus on that more...

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