Tuesday, January 28, 2014

Bikini Bridges and Thigh Gaps...

Rant time (you might be used to sunny side up Mel - this post "eh" not so much)... and what this means to a WOMAN who has a beautiful impressionable daughter...

Can I just say this "What is wrong with people - I mean for real what is WRONG WITH PEOPLE?". Ugh... I always take the "high road" and just let stuff go - BUT COME ON! Yes we all want to look amazing, feel amazing, have other's tell us how amazing we look, etc... blah.blah.blah... BUT this... this ridiculous obsession with thigh gaps and bikini bridges makes me extremely angry and yet sad at the same time.

Thigh Gaps... 



Really, does the world think these messages are healthy for woman and our younger generations? My answer is HELL TO THE NO!!! I understand wanting to have healthy legs, thighs, and a booty but shouldn't we just be striving to make ourselves stronger instead of focusing on making our thighs "not touch". I agree nice legs are something that I work on too, but I enjoy the burn, pushing them to the limits, and/or feeling nice in skirts. Not that my way is the right way - but I want Elle to want to take care of her body because she enjoys exercising, running, dancing, swimming - not because all the girls want DARN THIGH GAPS!

Bikini Bridges...


Can I smack someone now? Now we are obsessing how we look lying down... AGH!!!!!!! Once again I like working on my abs too - I want a strong core, I feel it gives you better posture, and it makes my pants fit better. I actually REALLY enjoy working out my core, but not because I want this dam* bridge when I sunbathe. I am not EVEN going to get started on this one and how unfortunate I think this craze is. Sad. just sad. Please let this pass by the time Elle starts asking to go to the pool with her friends.

Long rant short... I TOTALLY understand the need and want to feel better about ourselves. I would love great looking legs, killer abs, and a nice booty. I think feeling good about ourselves establishes confidence and who doesn't want to be confident? I believe we should workout, eat healthy, run, swim, dance, play soccer, etc... because we LOVE IT, we want to be strong women, we want to feel better about ourselves, and want to live a long healthy life. Reality is, is that is not norm. We get fixated on certain stigmas, trends, obsessions. I know this and although it makes me sad and angry, my goal is to strive to teach my children to take care of themselves for no one other then them self. To push themselves to be strong because living healthy is more important than any gap in a thigh or bridge in your dang swimsuit. Rant concluded...

Happy Worst Day of the Week

28 comments:

  1. AMEN. I just ranted about this on twitter the other day. I seriously can't take it anymore. If I never hear the term "thigh gap" again it will be too soon. It's so disgusting, really and it's a large reason why there are certain accounts on IG that I want to unfollow, because I can't stand the comments. Lots of amazing, fit, beautiful women have thighs that touch.

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  2. I have thighs for days and these hips don't lie. I don't understand this misconception that the thigh gap makes you beautiful. I've always had my thighs touch it's part of who I am. I think too many women put so much pressure on themselves to be this media specticle of the "perfect" body. Truth be told their is no perfect. There is only the perception of perfection. We as strong women need to ignore that and prove that living healthy is the best way to live. It doesn't matter if you're a size 20 or 2 what matters is how you treat your body, because you only have one body. Treat it right or when you get older it will turn on you. Ok I'm done ranting. Lol

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  3. I've always wanted a thigh gap, but it was only so my thighs didn't eat my shorts haha!! I'm so over it now. I have knock knees...a thigh gap will never, ever happen, so I'll just keep pulling my shorts down. This bikini bridge crap makes me livid! Did you know that it actually started as a hoax? Like "hey, lets see if we can make this ridiculous shit catch on" and IT DID!! Great, more things for the youth, and some adults, to kill themselves to achieve...eating disorders as far as the eye can see!! Your gorgeous Elle is going to grow up to be strong and confident and it'll be because of you!

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  4. That's stupid! When did bikini bridges and thigh gaps become a THING? Next being able to count your ribs will be "in"!

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  5. I just love you Mel. You are gorgeous inside and out! Elle will love herself because she has a great role model!

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  6. I am so scared to be raising two girls this day in age. especially for reasons like this. ugh...

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  7. I did not even know what a bikini bridge was and I am sorry(not sorry) but it looks pretty gross to me. Very sad, very very sad that this is what girls want and strive for. Hurts my soul.

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  8. As someone who works with teenagers, it makes me extra sad because I see daily how hard they are on themselves. And this isn't helping.

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  9. Love this post, and I am so glad you are there to be a role model for Elle. We should want to work out and eat well to be healthy not impossibly skinny. AND, there are bigger fish to fry in this world than dang thigh gaps and bikini bridges. PS I saw this article (http://mashable.com/2014/01/21/aerie-lingerie-ads/) about Aerie no longer photoshopping their models. It's a really great read!

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  10. I one hundred percent dread raising a teenage daughter in ten years... The social pressure is unreal. We focus on things that truly make them beautiful while they battle these things in society... Ugh... The dread...

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  11. Amen. This is one of my biggest worries raising a daughter, body image. Mainly because I don't have self esteem and my body isn't want I want. But I have never been a lover of the bikin bridge or thigh gap. I like a little meat.

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  12. I had never heard of a bikini bridge, ew. It even has its own hashtag? yikes. Anyway, I have a 3 year old and I think about this almost daily... what its going to be like in another 10 years, how do I help her love her body for its strengths & not a bikini bridge or whatever else they come up with. I grew up with severe body dysmorphia and still struggle to see my body for its strengths so I know this is going to be an uphill battle. I work out in front of & with her and never focus on what she can/can't eat. Being a girl is HARD.

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  13. I didn't even know what a bridge gap was at the beginning of this post! A long long time ago (seriously like high school) I used to want these things. Long for them. I would do ANYTHING humanly possibly to even try to get there. Now all I wanna be is strong and confident and I can assure you it doesn't include either of these things! This is messed up!

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  14. Loved this post!! I have so many body issues, I beat myself up all the time and with 2 young daughters I am trying to STOP! I want them to see me eating healthy and exercising because it is my lifestyle and because I want to be strong and healthy not because mommy obsesses over not being fat. It is so hard with today's society to not fall into these obsession and I am trying my hardest to get my body issues under control before my daughters copy my behavior! Thanks for the reminder today...strong not skinny!

    Kate

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  15. This post made me love you even more!! And I pray for Elle and Liv's sake....these OBSURD obsessions die!!! The other day Drew said, "mommy you look like that lady, she is pretty and skinny". Liv jumped in and said, "Drew, mommy is NOT skinny, she is fit"! So I am doing something right, as are you! xoxo

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  16. Ugh this stuff disgusts me too. Teens see this stuff and want to strive for it but in a lot of cases they don't have the knowledge of how to be fit and healthy by eating good foods. I didn't. My solution in high school was to eat crackers and drink water for a week to drop some pounds or don't eat 24 hours before I was going to be in a bathing suit. Insane. We just have to keep teaching our own children and hope that they strive to be healthy, not just skinny.

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  17. So weird, but last week I literally drafted an extremely similar blog post and was planning to post it tomorrow! I also have been seeing these sickly thin images on actual fitspo pages and it is killing me! Why are we glamorizing these girls with probably 10% body fat, if that, when that is not even healthy?!

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  18. What a mess...wtf, bikini bridge?!? I mean, I've got summer and swim suits on my mind big time in this nasty cold weather, but not for some Gap or Bridge trend...I would just like not to jiggle and have a tan, kthanks!!!

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  19. I had never heard of the bikini bridge! But if its up like that aren't you possible showing things you don't need to...if you know what I'm saying? And no matter how small my thighs ever get they will always touch. With my bone structure, there is no way plus I would have to loose all my muscle - no thank you! It is really sad that this is an obsession these days.

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  20. I'm glad that I can laugh at the thigh gap and bikini bridge but I am a confident, almost 30-year-old woman. I can't imagine the pressure that girls are feeling these days...

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  21. Amen!! My legs are not built to have a thigh gap. And don't get me started on the bikini bridge thing.... I feel it appears like someone could see right down to your hooha. No thanks!

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  22. I agree with you about the bikini bridge but actually like the thigh gap. The thing is that not everyone wants a huge thigh gap. Just a small space as a result of thin thighs. I would just say to anyone else like me that you don't have to starve to get a gap. There's a book called the thigh gap hack that is said to point you in the right direction while promoting being healthy.

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  23. i've heard about the thigh gap (dumb) and recently heard about the 'bridge' (even dumber). this is a terrible message because everyone has a different shape!! not everyone can get the thigh gap - i for sure am one of those people. i have very tiny hips and even at my skinniest - when i was going through severe PPD and basically didn't eat for like, 2yrs and dropped to a scary 100lbs, my thighs STILL touched. these are horrible 'goals' for anyone to try to achieve. instead, everyone should aim to be healthy - whatever that may be. eat clean, exercise regularly and you will be healthy.

    kathy
    Vodka and Soda

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  24. I have to say I'd never heard of Bikini Bridges before this post and as far as thigh gap goes - be health have some actual muscle on your legs not just skin and bone

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  25. I love you more than anything in the world for this. That stupid ass thigh gap craze is going to put me in my grave. Kudos babe.

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